Be honest, are you a martyr?

If you are, you're not alone.

We live in a society that seriously undermines the value of being a mother.

So in order to make ourselves feel seen and valued we often (without even realising it) let ourselves get buried and lost just so that we can show and prove how difficult it is.

I bet there are some mums that would feel guilty if they're not suffering in the name of their kids, because they think that is what being a mum is all about.

Some mums believe that suffering and sacrificing everything for their kids is how they show their love.

The truth is that you can be a freaking awesome mum without being a martyr, and I would argue that you're an even better one.

Here is why;

- Being a martyr and always putting everyone else's needs before your own is a breeding ground for resentment.

- Being a martyr is hard f*cking work. And it makes you miserable.

- Being a martyr takes up a lot of time. Time that could be spent doing things that light you up.

- Your kids don’t want you to be an exhausted, miserable martyr mother that loses themselves for their sake. They’d rather have a happy mum that lived life to the full.

- Rather than being a martyr mother, try being a model mother instead. And model to your kids having a full life that you can thrive in rather than just survive in.

What do you wanna be?

A martyr or a model?