If you want your kids to love themselves, show them how it's done

This is the truth. More than anything we all want our kids to love themselves don’t we? We want it even more for them if we’ve gone through our whole lives without having a solid sense of self worth ourselves, and we know how much of a struggle it is .

The best chance you can possibly give your children of loving themselves is to let them see you loving yourself too. You can say all of the right things but if they don’t see you genuinely loving yourself and modelling how it's done then it is going to be so much harder for them to do the same.

I spent most of my adult life with a feeling deep down inside me that I wasn’t good enough and it showed up in lots of different ways; imposter syndrome, mum guilt, people pleasing, even my health anxiety could be traced back to the feeling that I wasn’t worthy of the life that I had, so something had to go wrong.

It's not until my life became really difficult because of the negative thoughts that I was having about myself everyday that I realised that everything could be so much better and easier if I actually felt self worth. What spurred me on the most was that I wanted my two beautiful daughters to see, feel and hear what it's like to have a mum that loves herself and thinks that she is worth it in every way. So that by some sort of ripple effect they would believe that about themselves too.

And do you know what it really worked. I’ll always be on a journey of self love and acceptance as it’s not something that you get and you have it forever. Self worth has a shelf life and if you don’t keep it topped up you’re going to lose it.

That’s why so many mums lose their identity, get burn out and crave time alone. It’s their body and minds way of saying ‘hey you need to look after yourself woman, show yourself some love today!’.

So please let this be a little nudge for you to cultivate some self worth and look after you. Create that beautiful ripple effect for your family.